I have an issue between my husband and I, and I really need someone to give me advise and tell me whats wrong?

I dont want a bunch of "hes too old " your too young answers. Or smart a*** answers, please I need help. I want my marriage to work.VIP. I love my husband. He is 59 I am 27. We both have been married previously. About three months ago I caught him looking at Porn. He told me it was not Porn, it was Soft Porn, that was clarified when I opted to join him to satisfy him more, he revealed to me that he wanted me to open a page he knew of that was definatly hard core! We steped back from the edge together because we realized it was wrong. So I told him I loved God to much and then he told me he was going to tell me the same thing I just beat him too it. I had a jealoust problem with my ex husband I always accused him "Wrongly" of looking at other women and overly flirtatious. Every one called me crazy and wrong, everybody. I felt though that I couldnt even wach iCarly or any Pre teen show with out him gazing at the young women on the screen. Im not married to him anymore but I seem to have brought up some of those old issues again. I am scared to death that we will be waching a movie and my new husband has already seen this woman "actress" naked because he had googled her behind my back,,,, oh yeah he had dont that as well (new husband) Told me Megan Fox is a teeney bopper and then googled her on u tube for naked photos. I dont want and inmorality answers please, I dont think what he or I did was acceptable to god, and I want to quit that behavior. I am so frusterated because tonight we were waching a movie and he knew this ladys name in the movie and she was hot. I asked him if he saw her naked and he turned the movie off and got mad at me. Told me hes exausted with me. All my friends that have husbands that messed up try to help them by reassurance, I wish he would just lovingly correct me and tell me no I have not seen her naked I love you, or whatever. I believe that with out his help I will die inside. He left it up to me to get a grip and I dont know if I am strong enough, I have counceling set up....Oh yes and he has told people (his mom) as well that I am a jealous person and hes at his end...I feel lost, on top of that we were oust from our church and I will not join another one, so no advise on that please. I have no friends I call true to just talk but I need help I do.. Its hard. On top of that if I upset him in other ways he will call me a stupid twit, and then tell me in his generation that ment goofey.